A reader named Jamie sent me a lovely email recently proposing a blog topic. I was grateful for the email because I love getting feedback from readers who say my posts help them lose weight. And this particular question is probably something that everyone struggles with when first trying to lose weight.
“I wonder if you could address how you dealt with hunger (or still do) when you were heavier. I notice in your blog that you eat half a sandwich, pack home half or dinner out etc frequently. I try that, but I’m still physically too hungry to NOT finish my meal. I’m wondering if you could kindly respond or write a post on this issue.”
I’ve talked about this topic in a few different round about ways. Check out the old posts here: Redefine Your Relationship with Food, Hunger Cues and Savor: Book Review. The post that I wrote a few years ago that most closely deals with this topic is “E is for Emergency“. Basically, I had to learn that hunger was NOT an emergency and that I needed to listen to my body and decipher the hunger cues before just stuffing my face with food. It was like I would get tunnel vision and the only thing I wanted was FOOD. I still have that feeling after a really hard workout or bike ride.
So how did I deal with HUNGER while I was losing weight? And how do I deal with it now?
BEFORE
When I was trying to lose 100 pounds, I tried really hard to stay within my calorie range for the day. It was hard and there were days where I struggled and failed and some days where I failed so miserably it became a binge. Thankfully that wasn’t too often.
The first few weeks (maybe a month) of reducing my calories was a nightmare. I was always hungry. I was going from 4000+ calories a day to 1600 calories a day and my body was not happy about that. I had figured out how many calories I was allowed to eat for each meal and I was trying not to go over that. That hollow, grumbling feeling in my stomach was distracting to say the least. What helped was drinking water. Filling up with water when I was hungry took the edge off.
I learned a few things from this hunger. First, it goes away. Your body adjusts to the lower calories after awhile and it gets easier. Second, it’s crucial to find “safe” snacks to eat in between meals. Carrots and hummus, Greek yogurt and fruit, an apple, cottage cheese. Find things that take the edge off but don’t totally derail your efforts (i.e. going to the vending machine at work!).
After some time, the 1600-2000 calorie day was the norm and my body was used to it and expected it. If I overate, my body wasn’t happy. I’d get stomach cramps and feel nauseated sometimes. Finding that “happy spot” with food takes some time but once you realize what works, it gets really easy. I know I make it sound like it’s no effort at all, it DOES take time and work, but it DOES get easier!
NOW
How is that different now? Well I eat more calories now than I did during my weight loss. If I workout and burn 500 calories in the gym, I eat most of those calories back. So on a fitness day I could be eating 2200 calories. This helps with the hunger but the downside is that I do not lose weight now (because I do not create a calorie deficit).
I’m smarter about my food now. I try (sometimes I fail) to eat foods that are WORTH the calories. What does that mean? It means I choose foods that are high in protein, fiber and fat so that I get filled up with less food. For example:
avocado with crackers (a few bites of this and I’m full) – about 150 calories
cottage cheese (great protein source) – about 100 calories
protein shake with almond milk (currently loving the Costco whey protein) -about 160 calories
graham cracker with peanut butter on top -about 150 calories
string cheese with pistachios or almonds -about 180 calories depending on nuts
hardboiled egg with a piece of beef jerky -about 100 calories
It doesn’t sound like a lot of food but if you are SMART you will be satisfied. Seriously, there was a time when one graham cracker with peanut butter on top would not be considered a snack or something satisfying but now it is. I gave it time for my body to adjust and now it’s ok.
I am definitely not perfect all the time. I don’t know what is going on with me lately but I’ve been having an issue with hunger! I’ve been pretty decent with my calories every day and I haven’t really changed my fitness level (although I am doing a little more cardio now that my knees are better). Yet I’ve had that grumbling, empty stomach, insatiable hunger for about a week or two now! It’s been making me crazy. There have been a few mornings I woke up to growling hunger! That’s abnormal for me. Maybe my body is just re-adjusting to another change, who knows.
I’ve been taking my advice and trying to eat snacks that are healthier. Today I had some watermelon and blackberries from the garden. The other day I had some smoked almonds. They took the edge off, but didn’t cure it. Basically it got me through to the next meal.
Which brings me to my conclusion…
Conclusion
My tip (and yes I do this): when that insatiable hunger is taking over and you have a snack but it’s not doing the trick, tell yourself to CHILL OUT.
For example, as I write this post it’s about 3:50pm and my stomach is growling like I haven’t eaten in 2 days. (What the hell?!) I have plans to meet my friend Robyn for happy hour at 5:00pm. That is about an hour away. I’m telling myself I can make it, calm down, it’s only an hour. And I just guzzled more water.
Reread E is for Emergency and ask yourself why you think you are hungry? Is it real hunger? Did you not eat enough food at your last meal? Do you need to consider breaking up your meals into more frequent, smaller snacks? Are you drinking enough water? Are you stressed or emotional? Are there OTHER REASONS you might want to eat? (For me, there usually are!) I hope this helps!
QUESTION: What are your tips for dealing with insatiable hunger?
Andrea@WellnessNotes
Good tips! I especially like your snack suggestions. Avocado and nuts really help me when I’m very hungry. I find that I get a lot more hungry when I do a lot of cardio. For example, when I go for a long, strenuous hike, I get extremely hungry. Planning a snack ahead of time, really helps.
Lisa Eirene
It’s all about finding what works. For me, bananas make me hungrier, but avocado fills me up fast. Finding what worked for me took a LONG time.
Roz@weightingfor50
Awesome response Lisa. Thanks so much!!
Leah
I was just reading in NROL for Abs how bad it is to ignore hunger cues. Lou is a huge proponent of having a small snack. That said, I think it is important to recognize true hunger cues as opposed to boredom eating or thirst. I usually try a bunch of water and if that doesn’t do it, I’ll go for a handful of raw almonds. (He also says meals should hold you over for 4 hours, and snacks for 2 hours, and you really shouldn’t go longer without eating.)
Lisa Eirene
Definitely don’t starve yourself. I do something similar. I drink a lot of water and then if I am still hungry, I eat something!
Biz
This is a great post Lisa. I agree, when you don’t know how many calories you are eating in a day, only to find out its 4000 to go down to 1600 – 2000 – your body is like WTF?!
On days I work out twice (30 minutes at lunch, 45-60 at night) I eat around 2100 calories. On days I only workout out once, its around 1800 and the days I rest, 1500. Since I take insulin every time I eat something I rarely snack, who wants to take another shot? So my meals are big and keep me satisfied. I also try to get my ratio 40% carbs, 30% fat and 30% protein. Not all days are perfect but I’ve been doing this since June 1 and I’ve lost 14 pounds – can’t remember the last time I lost weight in the summer because usually I have my bottle of wine and cheese every night after work!
Lisa Eirene
I didn’t even think about diabetics! Yes, thanks for pointing that out. If you have to take insulin every time you eat something….I wouldn’t want to snack either. Does it matter how big the snack is? Like could you have a few bites and not have to take insulin?
Karla @ Foodologie
Great post. This part definitely is something I need to work on: “That is about an hour away. I’m telling myself I can make it, calm down, it’s only an hour. And I just guzzled more water.”
That’s super hard for me. But you bring up a great point. It’s just an hour!
Lisa Eirene
It’s only an hour!! (now remind me of this when I get home from the gym and starving! LOL)
Lori
In the winter, hot tea really helps curb an appetite. Sometimes, though, I will admit that I just eat if I am ravenous. I figure there is a reason for it.
Lisa Eirene
Peppermint tea is a good one. I use that. Forgot about it!
Beth
I agree with you – sometimes I can go from 0 to 100 very quickly! I am way more hungry in the morning than I am in the afternoon. In the morning I usually have 2 snacks in between breakfast and lunch, and then I can go from lunch to dinner with just one snack or sometimes I can skip it. I always have to leave my house with snacks on me or else I can get into trouble.
The other day we went to Target and it was about 11:30 and all of a sudden I was FAMISHED – like nauseous and OMG I have to eat something before I pass out – I went and grabbed a bag of grapes from the produce section and ate a bunch (then proceeded to pay for the ones I ate!) Having cut up fruit and veggies at the ready is always a good thing for me – as well as whole wheat crackers. Almonds are great but it takes too many to fill me up so I try and stay away from those.
Lisa Eirene
I hate that nauseous, I might pass out, feeling! Sometimes I get that way and I have eat something immediately! And I agree about the almonds. They work but they are so high in calories it sometimes isn’t worth it for me. Same with peanut butter!