My post yesterday seemed to touch a nerve with a lot of readers. I got a lot of really great comments and private emails:
Lori at Finding Radiance said: “I really struggle with body image. Sometimes I see myself as size 8, other times I think I look closer to the old me at 250 pounds. It does seem to be getting better with time, but not sure if that will ever go away. You have to shift your focus to the positive. If you dwell on the negative, then it breeds upon itself.”
And one of my favorites from Lisa at Bike, Bake Blog: “What a refreshing post……it can be so easy to focus on the negative sometimes – but I consciously try to turn it around and focus on the positives instead. Such as – instead of “argh I have put on weight” – I remind myself that “I have done 10 races in 6 months and have never been fitter”. A little extra weight is not the end of the world?!”
I took Kelly’s advice from My Healthy Passion: “I allow myself to wallow for a few days. I almost think it is healthy to allow myself to be in a bad mood. Then after some good wallowing (and usually a few tears…crying ALWAYS makes me feel better) I make myself focus on the positive things.”
I wallowed a bit and feel MUCH better today. I think having a great run yesterday helped that. It reminded me that my body does great things.
So why ARE we so hard on ourselves? Upbringing, media, poor parenting, blah blah blah…
I plan on changing that. As I stated in my post about June Goals, I’m going to think positive thoughts.
Some other things we can all do:
1. Be realistic. My body type/genetics is never going to be a size Zero.
2. Appreciate what my body can do at it’s current weight and size.
3. Don’t punish myself for overeating by overexercising.
4. I only weigh myself once a month for a reason: it’s to NOT obsess about the number on the scale.
5. Test yourself. Try something new. Be impressed with your abilities.
QUESTION: Did I miss anything? How do you think positive thoughts?
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Lisa @bakebikeblog
What a great post! I particularly love number 3 ” Don’t punish myself for overeating by overexercising.” Why we do this never ceases to amaze me…! But it is so important that we stop!
Morgan
My perception of myself is directly related to if I’ve had a good day or not. I never noticed this until a few years ago when I started paying attention to my eating disordered habits. If i’m in a great mood, I think I look great. If i’m in a bad mood for whatever reason, I automatically think I look obese.
I tend to deal with negative things in life by taking it out on my body. Totally disordered, but I deal with it much better now than I did years ago.
constantlyunwinding
If I ‘mess up’ I tell myself tomorrow is a new day! Each day is a new day and may be your last so we all must make the best of our crazy lives:) P.S. I love your blog!
hundredtenpounds
That’s the RIGHT attitude! And thanks! 🙂
nomorebigfella
Excellent thoutful post as always.
I like number 5!
Kelly
YAY…I am glad you are feeling better today! That makes me smile. One thing I do is take pictures. Sometimes a mirror isn’t my friend and I see things that aren’t there. But I have learned that I am better able to see myself in a photo. So whenever I am having body issues I snap a picture and it helps me to see what is really there versus what is all in my head! 🙂